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Rabbi Shaya's Thoughts

Two Kinds of Leaders

Every community needs two kinds of leaders—one who is a positive, inspirational leader, who motivates each member of the community to strive for perfection in all aspects of their lives; and one who relates to our weaknesses and encourages and motivates us to overcome weaknesses we may have, even if we never reach perfection. 

The difference between the two is that the first leader focuses on the positive within us, while the latter understands our faults and helps us come to terms with them.

At first glance, we would rather have the leader who encourages us to strive for perfection. Why focus on the negative?

However, on closer examination we realize that although we prefer to be good all the time, in reality, it is not so. What happens when we fail? Do we have the tools to pick ourselves up?

This is where the second kind of leader comes into play. When a leader lets us know that they can relate to us, that they understand our struggles, this kind of leader is a true inspiration to the whole community.

So yes, we need both kind of leaders, but it is the second that really leads, since this leader is lifting us up from the bottom, not just from the head.

This is why in this week’s Torah portion, we read about the leader who has sinned. As a consequence, he must bring a special offering and the whole community must be told about it.  However, the Midrash distinguishes between the two kinds of leaders mentioned above as to the effect that they have on the community. When the first kind of leader (i.e., the Kohen Gadol, the high priest) sins, the Midrash tells us that its a positive sign that he confesses publicly. However, the true compliment is bestowed on the second kind of leader (the Rabbi of the generation): When he admits his mistakes, the Midrash says that it lifts the whole community up to a higher spiritual level!

The reason for this is that since the Rabbi was the leader who could relate to them, understand the possibility for sin, and give the Jewish people the tools to overcome their challenges, when he sins and shows that he, too, can do something wrong, and can admit it – in public – this is truly an inspiring moment for the community.

Each of us, also, can strive to not only be a great cheerleader for our colleagues, friends, and family, but to be the one who understands people around us, and helps them reach greater heights!

Shabbat Shalom and Happy Pesach! 

Make Yourself Heard

Do we count more as individuals or as part of a group?

On the one hand, when each of us is on our own, our vision and message is very clear and focused: “This is what I am, and this is my product.” Yet, we may each wonder, “If I am on my own, will anyone even hear my voice? Will my individual perspective be drowned out?” On the other hand, we are certain that by being part of a group, our collective voice and reach is much greater.

So, the question becomes: Is it possible to be an individual and be part of a group at the same time?  

The answer is yes, as we see in this week’s Torah readings. This week we read a double portion, Vayakhel and Pekudei, which recount the building of the Tabernacle and its vessels. Vayakhel means gathering, as where parts of something are gathered to become the whole. And Pekudie means counting, as where every individual contribution is recognized on its own.

Only when the individual parts come together as one under one roof as part of one Tabernacle does the uniqueness of each individual article come to light. 

The individual item, with its own unique quality and purpose, gets placed in the larger context of the Tabernacle, and only then does the distinctive quality of the vessel come to light. 

We can see this on the very popular website, Etsy.com, or similar sites. Etsy is a marketplace made up of individual artists and crafters showcasing their own unique items, celebrating their art and talent. They come together at one site, not to lose their distinctive creativity, but just the opposite, to celebrate it. The site gives a home not to squash individuality, but to celebrate each and every artist.

The same is true of the Jewish people. On our own we are special, but when we are together, we shine! 

Charity as an atonement

 

There is a fascinating Midrash that allows us to listen in on a conversation between Moses and G-d.

G-d tells Moses that he should take a headcount of the Jews. He cannot do this directly, since we don’t count people, but by having each person donate a half-shekel, he can count the half-shekels; additionally, the half-shekels will be atonement for their souls. When Moses hears this he turns to G-d and asks, “How will a half-shekel act as an atonement?” G-d responds by showing Moses a fiery coin and says, “Like this, they should give.”

Why was Moses so perturbed? We all know that giving charity is good for the soul, so why doesn’t this make sense to Moses? In addition, since when do all of Judaism’s Mitzvot have to be logical? Can’t G-d just make things happen?

Let’s take a moment and try to think like Moses. A coin is made from the lowest and most physical element of this world. Coins are made out of material that is found deep down beneath the earth. Moses wondered, ”How is it that such a lowly coin can have such a great spiritual impact on our souls?”

G-d shows him a coin of fire. When there is a fire in the heart of the donor, even a lowly coin can be transformed into a holy coin. The coin itself can transform the giver into a holy, fiery human being.  All we need to do is to give it with good intention.

This was difficult for Moses to understand—before G-d explained it to him. Yes, he knew that when we do something holy with an ordinary item we can elevate it to a higher place, but for it to be an atonement for our souls—that is a little bit of a stretch. And that is why G-d showed him a fiery coin. Within every single thing in this world, even something as small and insignificant as a coin, one can find the “fire” inside.  And when we find that “fire,” we are transformed.

The trick for us is to not be afraid to light that spark. We can access it all the time by doing acts of loving kindness. One Mitzvah at a time.

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Shaya Deitsch

 

PS … These Shekalim eventually went toward the upkeep of the Temple and were collected once a year in the month of Adar. Since the Temple was destroyed – more than 2,000 years ago – a custom was instituted to donate a half-shekel on the eve of Purim.

A True Jewish Leader

The heroine in the story of Purim is Esther. What is unique about her is not only that she saved the Jews, but the way she accomplished this feat: risking her life for the benefit of her people.

To better appreciate her behavior, it is worth taking a lesson from this week’s Torah portion, Tetzaveh, the only portion since Moses’s birth in which his name is not mentioned even once.   

The story behind the absence of his name is that Moses, when beseeching G-d on behalf of the Jews to forgive them after the sin of the golden calf, told G-d, “If you will not forgive the Jews, then take me out of your Book!” G-d did forgive the Jews, yet He honored Moses’s threat in order to teach us Moses’s greatness.

Moses was willing to forego everything he had accomplished during his life, just to do another Jew a favor. He was willing to lose everything to save Israel—even the sinners. This was the essence of Moses. So, although Moses is not called by name, the essence of his character shines forth throughout this portion.

Esther lived up to this same ideal. She risked her own life—she could have been killed just for walking into the king’s chamber unannounced. She also risked her soul, by letting the king know that she was a Jewess. Yet she did what was best for her fellow Jews.

We mention Esther by name in this portion to teach us an important lesson: Just as Esther was able to live up to Moses’s ideal, so can we. This is why on Purim it is important to perform the Mitzvah of giving charity to the needy. It is a time when we act in a selfless manner, putting others’ needs before our own. Another Mitzvah that is commonly performed on Purim is to give gifts of food to our friends. We also read the scroll of Esther and celebrate with friends and family. To join the Community Purim Celebration “Purim in Outer Space,” please click here.

Shabbat Shalom and Happy Purim!

 

Finding the Beauty in Everyday Life

When things go wrong, we are often told to look at the big picture—not to get bogged down with the details, you have to see the whole picture. Yet, many times that is easier said than done. How do we remain focused to truly see the big picture?

Well, what is the big picture? Is the big picture more authentic than the small picture?

The answer lies in the essence of what we are talking about.

Take, for example, the details of this week’s Torah portion, Terumah. The Torah describes to us every detail of how to build the Tabernacle as well as the vessels within. Let’s take a look at the Menorah: It must have seven branches, cups, flowers, and spheres. When building the main stem, the balls, flowers, and spheres that protrude from it must be decorated. Since the Torah is not written with punctuation, it is dificult to determine what has to be decorated—the spheres alone or the flowers, cups, and spheres when they are together, e.g.  What is most interesting is why this is a question at all, since at the time that this question was debated, the rabbis were able to look at the Menorah and see for themselves! Why debate? 

The answer is that of course they knew how it was made, as they were able to see it. The real question was whether or not they could find proof of those details within the verse. 

How was it made? The most beautiful as possible, where skill, art, and perfection meet.

From this we see that although it is always important to see the big picture, it is just as important to look for the details. This doesn’t undermine the big picture, but rather supports the big picture. And even if we lose sight of what really matters, we have to remind ourselves that we should always look for the beauty in life. 

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