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Rabbi Shaya's Thoughts

Making a connection

As the election season heats up, we are starting to hear commentary on the subject matter of how we should or shouldn’t be influenced by the “handshake” between a politician and a child. After all, the reason why they interact publicly with children is so they are viewed as a compassionate and caring leader.  


This got me thinking: What happens if the same politician, during a speech, calls directly to that same child to ask for some water. Chances are that the kid would run to fetch a bottle of water. However, if the politician just said, “I need some water” into the mic without pointing out anyone in particular, what are the chances that it would be the child who would bring the water? I would venture to guess that an aide would do so.


The difference between these two scenarios is that one was a personal request to an individual, while the other was just a statement. 


This brings us to this week’s Torah portion of Tzav. In Hebrew as well as in English, there are a few word choices to select from when stating that one person is speaking to another, including “speak,” “say,” and “request.”  Each meaning can denote a kind way of speaking, a harsher way of communicating, and a nice, yet firm, form of getting one’s message across. 


The Hebrew word “Tzav” connotes the idea that “I want this thing,” as with the politician when talking to the child. The request is clear and directed. Although the child might not understand why they are being singled out, that doesn’t matter; what does matter is that the request is directed toward them. This in and of itself creates a bond between the two people.


The same is true between us and G-d. When He just gives a command to do this or that Mitzvah, we can remove ourselves from the picture and say to ourselves, let someone else do it. Yes, G-d wants all of us to fulfill this Mitzvah, but we can disassociate ourselves from it. However, when there is a personal request, we feel the urgency of the matter, as well as a greater to desire to listen. 


This is why we value tzdakah (giving charity), as G-d made clear to us that giving charity is not only something that He is telling us to do, or even just suggesting, but something that He demands from us. 


Interestingly, another meaning of the word Tzav—which is related to the word Mitzvah—is Tzavta, which means connection.  When we observe a mitzvah, especially one that was requested of us, we truly become connected to G-d.


When does education start?

What does it take to educate a child? There are many theories as to what subjects to teach, when to begin formal education, and the method by which the child should learn.   

The “what, when, and how” answers are crucial to a child’s development.  

Some people overlook the importance of educating children when they are very young, saying “when they get older, they will understand,” however it is worth challenging this assumption. 

In this week’s Torah portion, Vayak’hel, we learn how the chacham lev (the team of wise-hearted artists) built the Mishkan, the Tabernacle. Who are these chacham lev? They are wise people, those who have wisdom and skill, but not just in their manual abilities; they are also emotionally invested in their craft and in building the Tabernacle with all that it needs.  

One of the things that jumps at us is the timing of the construction: When the coverings were made—intrinsic weaving skills were needed to create it—and at the same time, the ropes were woven, as well as the stakes that were needed to anchor the roof cover to the ground so that it didn’t move in the wind.  

In addition, the Temple was built first with the walls and roof and only later did they build the vessels—the altar, menorah, ark, etc. Seemingly, the main use of the Temple was in the vessels. Why the need to build the outside coverings and walls first? After all, it was assembled all at one time.  

Here we have a lesson for us:  

Education starts at a very young age. The educator's job is to instill in a child, not only the subject matter, but even more importantly how to be well anchored so that they don’t “blow in the wind of society” as they get older. The younger the child is when they are taught these skills, the better person they will grow up to be.  

Of course, we all know that the most valuable part of the Temple was not its stakes but the Holy Ark, yet without those stakes the Holy Ark would have no home.  

This is why the Torah tells us that even the stakes had to be made by the chacham lev – by skilled craftsman.

It is the same with education. The teachers of the youngest children must be quality teachers! Parents, who are given the responsibility to educate their children, must invest all their resources to raise their children to be anchored well to what really matters to them – do not wait until “when they get older they will understand.” 

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