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Rabbi Shaya's Thoughts

Looking Upward, Moving Forward

When we feel wronged by someone, it is easy to hold a grudge. Yet at times we feel the need to forgive. On the surface, forgiveness may simply stem from a desire to move on. We do not want the negativity to linger. We do not seek revenge. We do not want the other person to suffer or pay a price for their wrongdoing. We simply want to put the matter behind us.

To gain a deeper understanding of forgiveness, it is worth examining a story in this week's Torah portion, Chukat.

After the Jews sinned yet again, an epidemic broke out and fiery serpents attacked the people. When the Jews realized their mistake, they came to Moses and asked for forgiveness and begged him to pray to G-d on their behalf.

Moses did. Yet G-d instructed him to raise a copper serpent on a pole so that the people would look toward it and be reminded that everything comes from G-d. Only after this was done did the dying come to an end.

Our sages teach that from this story we learn the importance of forgiveness. A person should not be cruel or ruthless when asked to forgive. Rather, we should strive to be forgiving.

To appreciate the idea of forgiveness better, let’s break it down into different levels of forgiveness:

  1. We care enough about the other person that we do not want them to suffer the consequences of the hurt they caused, so we forgive them.
  2. We do not even want the negativity between us to linger. We forgive and allow bygones to be bygones.
  3. The forgiveness is so complete that the slate is wiped clean. There is no lingering resentment, no scorekeeping, and no emotional residue. The forgiveness is so thorough that it is as though the offense never occurred. In fact, the relationship may become even stronger because of it.

Moses could have simply forgiven the Jews for their complaints and prayed that the suffering stop. But that would not have fully resolved the issue. Moses sought something deeper. He wanted forgiveness without conditions and without lingering resentment.

For that to happen, the Jews first had to acknowledge their wrongdoing and ask for forgiveness. It was not enough for Moses to forgive them on his own. They needed to take responsibility for their actions.

This is why G-d instructed Moses to raise the copper serpent. The people had to look upward, reflect, and change. If seeing the serpent inspired them to recognize their mistake and return to G-d, then they would merit the highest form of forgiveness. If not, the wound would remain unresolved.

True forgiveness is not merely granted; it must also be earned. When repentance is sincere and forgiveness is complete, it is as though the wrong never happened.

We must learn how to forgive, but we must also learn how to earn forgiveness.

If you have wronged someone, ask for forgiveness sincerely. And if someone asks you to forgive, do not be ruthless. Find it within yourself to truly forgive.

Shabbat Shalom.

The Honor of Being Guarded

Many people are troubled by the need for security at synagogues, Jewish institutions, and community events, viewing it as yet another burden imposed by the rise of antisemitism. A “tax on the Jews.”

While we can understand that feeling, perhaps there is more to security than protection alone.

In some ways, it is an honor to have protection at the entrance to a potentially vulnerable location. We see this at important institutions around the world. Buckingham Palace, for example, has guards stationed at its gates not only for security, but also as a sign of dignity and respect. Their presence communicates that this is a place of significance.

This idea appears in this week's Torah portion, Korach. The tribe of Levi was commanded to stand watch over the entrances of the Holy Temple. The purpose was twofold: to ensure that unauthorized individuals did not enter this sacred space, and to honor the Temple through the very presence of those guarding it.

Interestingly, although there were thirteen entrances to the Temple, only five were guarded by Levites, and two by the Kohanim. The remaining entrances did not require guards because they were not considered primary entryways.

The question is asked, if it was the job of the Levites to guard the entrances, why were two of them protected differently?

The commentators offer two perspectives that ultimately converge into a single insight.

First, since these entrances were overseen by Kohanim who stood watch within those areas. The entrances were considered protected, just not by Levites.

Second, because the Kohanim were already present inside these sacred chambers, and the rooms themselves were guarded. Their presence provided that honor and therefore, there was no need for a guard to stand outside.

The distinction is subtle but meaningful. Does guarding a space require standing at the entrance, or can someone inside the space also be considered a sentinel?

Generally speaking, protection is most effective when positioned outside the area being guarded. But when the space itself is holy and those inside are already standing watch, the emphasis shifts. The guard's role becomes less about protection and more about honoring the sanctity of the place.

This distinction helps us better understand another mitzvah: the mezuzah.

When we affix a mezuzah to our doorpost, it serves as a form of spiritual protection. Yet that is not its only purpose. A mezuzah is also a declaration of identity and pride. It tells the world that a Jewish home stands here.

This dual purpose affects many of the halachic discussions regarding which rooms require a mezuzah. Is the mezuzah there primarily for protection, or is it there to confer honor and define the significance of the space? The answer often depends on which aspect is being emphasized.

Just as the guards at the Temple served both to protect and to honor a sacred space, the mezuzah serves a dual purpose as well. It offers spiritual protection while proudly proclaiming the Jewish identity of the home.

At a time when Jewish security is so visible, it is worth remembering that protection and pride are not opposing ideas. Sometimes the very measures that protect us also express who we are and what we value. In a world where being openly Jewish can require courage, the mezuzah reminds us to do more than protect our homes, it reminds us to proudly affirm our identity and the sanctity of the Jewish life within.

Shabbat Shalom

Having the Courage to Initiate

Every excuse we give for not doing something expected of us sounds legitimate, at least to ourselves. Yet in moments of honest self-reflection, we often feel that we have fallen short.

Why do we feel bad? It is not because our excuses are false. They can be completely valid. The reason we feel disappointed is because deep down we know that despite all the obstacles, we still could have risen to the occasion.

We know that we have it within us to do what needs to get done. Yet we might wait for someone else to take the lead, or for circumstances to push us into action. Taking initiative is difficult, as It requires effort, courage, and responsibility.

The question is: How do we develop that sense of initiative? How do we find the strength to act before circumstances force us to?

An answer can be found in this week's Torah portion, Shelach.

We read the well-known story of Moses sending twelve leaders, one from each tribe, to scout out the Land of Israel. Moses was worried about the report they would bring back, which is why he prayed that G-d would protect his protégé and eventual successor, Joshua, from the influence and reasoning of the other scouts.

Moses was right to be concerned. The scouts returned with a negative report, twisting every positive sign into a reason for fear. They argued that it would be better to remain where they were rather than move forward into the unknown land.

Moses expected Joshua to turn the tide. Yet it was not Joshua, but Calev, who succeeded in getting the people to see things differently.

Calev's response remains deeply instructive.

Where did Calev find the strength to stand up against the consensus? Where did he get the courage to challenge what everyone else was saying?

While in Israel, Calev separated from the other scouts and traveled to Chevron, the resting place of our ancestors, and prayed to G-d for help. He took the initiative.

Before he could influence others, he worked on himself. Rather than assuming that he would naturally make the right choice, he sought Divine assistance. He understood that success does not come from waiting for inspiration to arrive on its own. We must take responsibility for our growth and do something to strengthen our character and convictions.

That is why, although Calev did not possess the stature or influence that Joshua had, he was able to step forward when it mattered most. When he saw that the people were being swept away by fear, he stood up and called for everyone to listen.

Paying close attention to the words he chose, we uncover a fascinating insight.

Calev connected with the people. He understood their concerns. Their challenge was not a lack of faith in G-d. Rather, they were afraid of the obstacles they would encounter along the way.

That is why Calev reminded them of the miracles they had already experienced. Every one of those miracles occurred during the journey itself—G-d had guided them through challenges before, and He would continue to guide them through the challenges ahead.

Calev's message resonates today no less than it did then:

1.       Stop making excuses, even when they are legitimate.

2.       Find the inner strength to ask for help.

3.       Do not wait for miracles before taking action. More often than not, the miracles reveal themselves after we take the first step.

4.       Take your destiny into your own hands.

5.       Don’t be afraid to just do it.

Shabbat Shalom.

Does Consistency Matter?

Imagine this scene: A company organizes a conference for their employees, and brings in some well-known speakers to inspire the crowd. As planned, the speakers are a huge hit! Everyone is talking about how wonderful the speakers were. But as the head of the company, you could become despondent, thinking to yourself, “Wait—I inspire them, but they never praise me; am I worthless?

Something like this happened in this week’s Torah portion of Behaalotecha, where we read how Aaron kindled a menorah for the first time. However, to appreciate its significance, let’s recall the end of last week’s Torah portion, where we read about the twelve tribe leaders bringing an array of gifts to the Mishkan, the Tabernacle, day after day for twelve days. This drew the admiration of the Jewish people.  Now Aaron is about to light the menorah.

As he was about to do so, he had an identity crisis.

As the person who was appointed to be the High Priest, was it his job to light the menorah? The leaders of the tribes brought their donations to the public square and were publicly recognized for their contributions. Aaron, on the other hand, was assigned to kindle the menorah in the privacy of the inner chambers of the Mishkan, an area that no one saw.  This led Aaron to think to himself, “What is the big deal about lighting the menorah?”

The Midrash tells us that when G-d noticed Aaron’s mood, He told him, “By your life, yours is greater than theirs!”

What did G-d mean by this statement, and why did this make Aaron feel better?

There is a very powerful message being taught here. True, the leaders of the tribes brought many gifts, and with a lot of fanfare. But who were the implementors? Not the leaders, but the Priests. Aaron was not there to give instructions to others to kindle the Menorah, but he did so himself. In addition, Aaron was also required to show up every day. Each of the tribe leaders, by contrast, only brought their offerings one time.

G-d comforted Aaron by teaching him the value and significance of the day-to-day grind. Many days can go by without any accolades. But that doesn’t take away from the truth:  It is the consistent work that we do that truly matters.

The head of that company should remember that the speaker was inspirational for one hour, but the company leadership is the reason why the employees are there to begin with. Showing up every day, giving guidance and direction, is much more meaningful than just making a good impression quickly. It’s in daily consistency where true greatness lies.

This lesson applies to our own lives as well. When we light our candle every day, we should not be looking for admiration from others, because we know that it is our consistency, constantly showing up, that is the most important thing in the world.

Shabbat Shalom

 

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